Self Care With A Biblical View

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Welcome to Reset Your Health, the podcast where

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we’ll discover your mind, search your heart,

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and repair your body. I’m your host, Mary Phillips,

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and joining me today is my husband, Stephen.

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Hello. In today’s episode, we’re going to cover

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self -care with a biblical view and kind of what

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that all means and what the Bible has to say

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with caring for ourselves. Do you usually feel

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overworked or the kids draining you? Or how about

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just life stresses? Maybe it’s financial stresses,

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maybe it’s work, you know, I mean, just tons

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of different things. And it’s something I definitely

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have struggled with for many years, being overworked

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and overwhelmed. And how can I take time? This

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is what I’ve always thought is how can I take

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time for myself when there are still more to

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get done? So there’s always toilets to clean.

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There’s always things that could be. cleaner

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in the house, there’s always food that needs

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to be made or an errand that needs to be run.

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I mean, it’s just never ending. So I’ve always

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felt really guilty taking a little bit of time

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for myself and just kind of sitting and relaxing,

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whether it’s take a bath or get in my Bible in

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the middle of the day. or just anything, maybe

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taking 10 minutes to have prayer. I feel guilty

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of those times of of caring for myself. And Steve

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has always told me I need to take the time for

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me. And I always say, well, my exercise time

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is my time for me. Well, with teaching so many

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classes, my exercise time kind of became not

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mine, but more so I was teaching and I enjoyed

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it and I still got to work out. But even that

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became part of my work. And so I lost that. So

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it’s still a work in progress for me that it’s

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OK to have self care time, whatever that may

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be for you. Maybe it’s exercise. Maybe it’s reading

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a book. Maybe it’s just sitting and doing nothing,

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not thinking about anything. So I just want to

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talk about a little bit of what happens when

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we don’t take that time. And one of the things

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that happens is we become angry with her. family

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or with those that we are caring for because

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we kind of become resentful of them in a way.

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I just think about the fact that, man, I’m doing

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all of this for them and I never get anything

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in return, you know. Life’s busyness overtaking

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everything you do. Yeah. And so a lot of times

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when we don’t take that time for ourselves, we

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can become depressed and dissatisfied. It turns

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into negative. And we’re just thinking negatively

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all the time because we’re not being filled back

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up. We’re being drained. And maybe we go to bed

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and we get a quarter of a cup from a full cup.

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But we’re never getting refilled when we don’t

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take that time to worry about that self -care.

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And so then your thoughts are negative. Maybe

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you’re short or tempered with your husband or

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your kids or your wife or whoever it is. Or maybe

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at work, you’re not performing as well because

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you’re so drained. Work is draining you. You

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just have to… It leads us into these negative

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spots, I guess. And we can start falling away

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from those that we love. We can start falling

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away from our spouses, our children, our parents,

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whoever it is. And so I just want to kind of

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explore in itself what is self -care. And self

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-care is actually defined as anything that is

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done deliberately to focus our efforts on caring

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for our health mentally, physically, or spiritually.

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So I love that because it’s not just talking

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about mental here, it’s talking about the physical

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and it’s talking about the spiritual. And so

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I’m kind of gonna just cover today all three

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of those aspects. And like I said, this is on

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a biblical view, so I have a lot of Bible scriptures

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that I’m gonna Talk about today and I’ve kind

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of been wondering should I start with spiritual

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health physical health mindful health I can’t

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think they all kind of go hand -in -hand though

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to be honest Because if one of them is out of

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sync with the rest of them it can make for a

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pretty miserable day Yeah, well we we have we

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must take care of our needs and in turn can take

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care of others because if we’re not taking care

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of our own needs and they become so much harder

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for us to take care of others. Well, and if you

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don’t love yourself and you don’t take care of

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yourself, you’re no good to anybody. Yeah. And

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one of the first first verses I have is for God

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gave us not a spirit of fear, but of power and

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love and self -control. Second Timothy one seven.

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And it’s not exactly in self -care that one,

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but just that self -control that we have and.

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And the more we give time for ourselves, the

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more we can have that self control. So I guess

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today, let’s just go ahead and start on our physical

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care. So the first verse I have with that one

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is, then because so many were coming and going

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that they did not even have a chance to eat,

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he said to them, come with me by yourselves.

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to a quiet place and get some rest. Mark 6 31.

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And this was Jesus talking to his disciples.

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And right there, Jesus is telling them, OK, everybody

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is coming and they’re wanting to hear what the

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disciples and what Jesus had to say. But Jesus

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is like, no, it’s time. We need you guys need

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to eat. You need to rest. We just need rest time.

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We need self care time. And so that’s Jesus speaking

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right to the disciples saying it’s OK to take

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a break. And so that one is kind of a big one

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because a lot of times we we don’t want to slow

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down or we feel like we can’t slow down. Yeah,

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there’s there’s times where, you know, whether

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it be with work or with tasks that you have or

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just priorities that are coming your way, that

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you just feel like you can’t step away or you

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you have to complete them or it just kind of

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eats at you. And there is, you know, that opportunity

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where you need to kind of take a step back. Yeah,

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because this is talking about that physical side.

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And if we’re not physically allowing ourselves

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to get the rest and the relaxation that we need

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physically, then then we can’t physically keep

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doing the amount of work and everything that

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we need to be doing. All of the tasks that we

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have before us are not going to do great because

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we’re physically worn out. Part of my physical

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as well has always been Working out. I mean for

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the past 12 years. I’ve been over 12 years now.

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I’ve been working out and it just is part of

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who I am at this point and maybe your workout

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is just a couple walks around the block taking

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the dog for a walk. Maybe it’s it’s it is an

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exercise class or whatever it is for you, but

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For me, that is part of my physical health. I

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need to have that. I feel better. And that runs

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into my mental health. Because if I’m not getting

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my exercise and my physical health, my mental

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state really suffers. So that’s where I say everything

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just kind of runs hand in hand. And taking care

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of our health is truly biblical on all of these

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aspects. Another verse I have is, do you not

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know that your bodies are the temples of the

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Holy Spirit? who is in you, whom you have received

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from God. You are not your own. You were bought

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at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies.”

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1 Corinthians 6, 19, 20. I just want to reread

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the part that says, you are not your own. So

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that is just huge to me because of course we

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are each individual people and God has given

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us each a different character, different different

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things we’re good at, all of that. And he loves

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us for our individuality and who he made us.

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But at the same time, we’re the Holy Temple.

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And so if we’re the Holy Temple and we expect

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we have we invite the Holy Spirit in and the

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Holy Spirit is living in us, then physically

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it also goes into what we’re feeding our bodies.

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And you knew this would come up on my podcast.

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Because, of course, I’m always talking about

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health and health has a lot to do with the nutrition.

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And honestly, if we’re putting junk into our

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bodies, we’re putting junk into the temple. I

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mean, I don’t know if you go to church or if

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you’ve ever been inside a church, I’m guessing

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most of you have. But usually you don’t take

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junk into the sanctuary and just kind of throw

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it everywhere. I mean, if you do, well, I don’t

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know. You have to care for the temple, the sanctuary

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at the church. Well, our bodies are a temple

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for the Holy Spirit. So it’s the same thing.

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If we’re taking in unhealthy nutrition, if we’re

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taking in junk food all the time, and I’m not

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saying that the occasional, you know, Christmas

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cookies here and there or whatever. But I’m just

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saying, like, if we’re not feeding our bodies

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that nutrition physically than it needs, then

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we’re not taking care of ourselves, that self

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care. And we’re going to feel worse because we’re

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going to feel bloated. We’re going to feel fat

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or we’re going to feel tired. I mean, taking

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in nasty food just makes you tired anyways. Well,

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that kind of goes hand in hand with the self

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control part of that other quote in the Bible.

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Yeah, because I mean, just like sugar, sugar

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is going to give you a quick sugar spike, but

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then you have the sugar crash. So then what does

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somebody usually do? Go to another source of

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sugar and sugar doesn’t have to just come in

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a candy bar. I mean, I’m not going to go far

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in depth in this episode, but sugar can even

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be in healthy foods that we think of like fruit,

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which I’m not saying to stay away from fruit.

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I’m just saying be careful because. A lot of

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times we can eat a lot of fruit because it is

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good. It’s sweet, but it still is sugar. So it

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gives you a sugar spike. Well, a little bit later

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you have a crash and then you go for either more

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fruit, sugar, but most of the time, most people

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I talk to don’t go towards fruit anyways. They

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go towards the candy bar or the vending machine

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or even hot, something high in carbs. Maybe you’re

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not a huge like sweets person. But if you get

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that potato chip, those potato chips, you’re

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still going to get an insulin spike because of

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the carbs and sugar that are in it in the process

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of it. So just caring about that all the way

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around physically. Well, it’s something that

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is needed that is biblically shown, like the

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fact that Jesus even tells them to rest, to to

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eat. And I’m sure he meant eating healthfully,

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you know, to give them that energy. And so it’s

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our responsibility to take care of the temple.

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And the next one is that emotional care. So taking

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care of ourselves emotionally. How can we truly

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care for those around us and those that we love

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if we’re unhappy ourselves in our mind, in our

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emotions? I mean, we’re not gonna give them good

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quality care if we’re not giving ourselves the

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care that we need. This week, one thing I did,

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which was a little off for me, and I usually

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don’t, but I had a little bit of time on Monday

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afternoon. And some of you may have seen my live

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feed when this gets recorded. It was a couple

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of weeks ago. But anyways, may have seen a post

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about my Thanksgiving and what I did with Thanksgiving.

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And I was at Windsor Lake. And I actually had

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I could have came home and cleaned, but one,

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it was the end of November and 72 degrees. So

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I really didn’t want to be in the house. I wanted

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to get outside. I had taught at the the resort

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all morning and I just want to get outside in

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the sunshine. And I took a walk around Windsor

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Lake, so a little over two miles or so. And.

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I felt so good afterwards because I had taken

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that time for myself. I felt guilty when I first

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thought about it. And then I was like, no, Mary,

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you need this. Emotionally, you need this before

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you head back home and you start working or anything

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else before you start doing the things you know

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you have to. You need it. So I took about 45

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minutes to just take a nice two and a half mile

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walk. Like nothing crazy. And it was just, I

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don’t know. We need that mentally for ourselves,

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but because of that I was able to do my jobs

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and Be with my kids and my husband stuff all

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week better because I took that time and The

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Bible has a few verses on the emotional side

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And one of them is a cheerful heart is a good

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medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bone

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Proverbs 17 22 I love Proverbs my favorite book

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in the Bible. I probably hear a lot of verses

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from me when I’m pulling out verses from Proverbs,

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but I love how it says, a cheerful heart is good

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medicine, because I always say we are who we

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surround ourselves with. If we surround ourselves

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with negativity, we become negative. But if we

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surround ourselves with positive, we become positive.

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And that’s exactly what this Bible verse is saying.

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Because when we’re with somebody that’s depressed

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and down and just, you know, always looking at

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the grass is always greener at the other side,

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right? You know which people I’m talking about.

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It gets pretty draining. Like, honestly, when

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they can’t ever see the good in life, and I’m

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not saying some don’t have it harder than others,

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we’ve been through some pretty tough stuff ourselves.

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So it’s not like our life has always just been

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hunky -dory and perfect and it still is not.

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But I try to turn everything to the positive

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and just lift people up and because if we’re

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just being draining to those all the time then

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we’re gonna take others down with us. So emotionally

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we need to keep ourselves higher but we also

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need to feed it to others too to help them. then

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whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty

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and he who rules his spirit then he who takes

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care a city or takes a city I’m sorry Proverbs

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16 32 so whoever is slow to anger is better than

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the mighty I mean just sound that is one that

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I’ve definitely had big struggles with in my

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life was the slow to anger and I guess for me

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it’s not a lot of times the slow to anger It’s

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it takes me a while to get there, but once I

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hit it, I can get very angry. And so I have to

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really work on that and focus on it all the time.

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I’m being slow to anger. And I have noticed that

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when I’m emotionally better with I’ve taken care

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of my emotional state, I am more slow to anger

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because again, my cup is more full. And so I

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have more that I can give out and I can be more

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slow to anger. And then he who rules his spirit,

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then he who takes the city. I mean, more mighty

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than that. So it’s just showing that being slow

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to anger is actually what’s going to take the

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city. Not not the ones that are just rulers and

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want to be in command. But yeah, I feel like

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all of that has to do with that. That self -care

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and how we take care of ourselves is how we’re

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going to show up. in certain situations, I think

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a lot of those that are quick to anger are always

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wanting power, per se, are the ones that haven’t

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taken care of themselves. And so they feel down

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on themselves, which in turn makes them treat

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others horribly. Well, they’re not in control

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of themselves and not powerful over themselves.

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And so they feel the need to do it to others.

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And so, but. That need kind of goes away if you

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just take care of yourself to begin with and

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then you can feel good about The control that

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you do have which is in your own life Well, it’s

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like our kids. I mean our kids don’t really understand

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self -care quite yet because kids are just selfish

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at heart period and so With kids they automatically

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just want self self self But really, it’s us

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parents that have to feed in all of these things

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I’m talking about, that physical care, that emotional

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care, that spiritual care. And so that’s why

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we become so drained is because we’re trying

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to feed it into our kids, because our kids will

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be a lot better behaved and stuff when everything

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is covered there. Not that they’ll be little

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angels. My kids are not angels. Well, they are

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angels, but, you know, they don’t act like angels

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all the time. But anyways. It’s just the more

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I feed into them and show them how much I love

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them physically, emotionally, spiritually, the

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better they are. And the final one I want to

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do is spiritual health or spiritual health care

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or self care, I guess, is we should have a relationship

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with Christ, with God. And that is what being

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a Christian really means, is having a relationship

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with Him. And our spiritual health is what we

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will lead. Well, our spiritual health is what

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will lead us to a physical and mental health.

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So this is why earlier when I was like, I didn’t

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know what to start with. I thought about starting

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with spiritual health for this reason, but excited

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to end it with the spiritual health just so it

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keeps dwelling in your mind. And one verse here

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that most of you probably know is John 3, 16,

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very favorite. For God so loved the world that

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he gave his only son that whosoever believes

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in him should not perish, but have eternal life.”

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And that one, I mean, most know this verse, if

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you know the Bible at all, because it’s just

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constantly reminding us of how much God has done

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for us. And just in that, the fact that he sent

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his son to die on the cross, is enough that we

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should want that spiritual health, that we would

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want that relationship with Him. And with that,

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we’re going to feel better because we’re going

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to know God is right there on our side and He’s

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taking care of us, even if sometimes in life

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it doesn’t look like it. But the closer we are

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to Him, the more spiritual self -care we have

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and the more, I guess, better that we feel. And

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if God sent his son for us and he loves us that

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much, why would he want us to live broken and

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overwhelmed or an overworked? He wouldn’t. I

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mean, honestly, he wants to see us thriving.

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He wants to see us loving ourselves. He doesn’t

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want to see us hating ourselves, looking at ourselves

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horribly, downing ourselves or anything. And

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so that only gives us another reason why we want

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to come closer to him. And the final Bible verse

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I’ll have here is the Lord will guide you always.

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He will satisfy your needs in a sun scorched

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land and will strengthen your frame. He will

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be like a well watered garden, like a spring

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whose waters never fail. Isaiah 58 11. And that

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is just a wonderful promise that if we stay faithful

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to him, if we grow our spiritual health in him,

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if we come closer to him, He will save us. He

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will satisfy our needs. He will be like a well

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watered garden. I mean, everybody knows gardens

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need water, especially here in Colorado, where

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no water comes besides from sprinklers. So lots

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of droughts. We’ve been having two years of droughts

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pretty bad. Yeah, I mean, it just shows that.

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God will care for us and God will feed into us.

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It does not mean life will be perfect. But the

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more we take care of ourselves and the more that

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we lean into God and come closer to him, then

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the better we will feel and then we’ll just have

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a better peace, I should say. But so in the future,

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don’t take to no longer feel guilty. And I know

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I know I’m talking to you moms out there. So

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listen. Put your babies down right now. Hold

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on and listen. Because I know us moms, we feel

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guilty to take that self -care time. Figure out

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a time. I don’t care if it’s five minutes a day.

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Maybe you can get away for a half hour a day

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or even an hour a day. But take some time every

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day to have that self -care. Maybe it’s walking

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around the block, walking to the mailbox. Maybe

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it’s, you know what, I’m going to focus on my

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nutrition. I’m going to finally care about my

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own health. I’m going to finally take the time

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to figure out what I need to do to feel about

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better, to have more energy, to feel better about

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myself, to not feed my body crap. Maybe that’s

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what it is, or maybe it’s the emotional side

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of things. And you just want to sit down and

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relax and read a book. Take that time. And with

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the spiritual health, I just have to say we all

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have to continue to grow there. I mean, we never

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will be perfect and in the right place. And so

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that’s just one that should be obvious for everybody.

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And just don’t feel guilty about it. And we should

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work, but we also should rest. And I’m not saying

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sit around and be lazy for six or seven hours

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a day. What I’m saying is take that time to just

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care and you’ll know what it is. And so I challenge

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you and I don’t know if we’ll have a comment

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section since we haven’t discussed this at all.

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Well, once it’s posted on Facebook, there’ll

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be a good way to do that until we get the opportunity

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to get a website. Well, what I would love you

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to do is comment to me, how will you take care

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of yourself? What are you going to start doing?

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for yourself or how do you do it? Maybe you already

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do it and you’re pretty good in this area. That’s

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wonderful. I want to hear what it is you do for

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yourself or maybe you’re finally like, you know

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what, I’m not going to feel guilty about this

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anymore and you’re going to do it. So please

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comment and let me know and I guess we will talk

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to you next time.